Short texts
When you want to reach out right away without intruding.
I just heard about {Name}. I'm so sorry. Thinking of you — no need to reply.
Holding you close today. I'm here whenever you want to talk, or not talk.
There are no right words, but I didn't want the silence to feel like distance. I love you.
Sympathy card messages
Warm, simple lines for a written card.
{Name}'s kindness changed the people lucky enough to know them. Sending you so much love.
May the memories you share carry you gently through the days ahead.
Please know you are not alone in this. Our family is grieving with yours.
In person
When you're standing in front of them and your mind goes blank.
I'm so sorry. I loved {Name} too.
I don't have the right words. I just wanted you to know I'm here.
Tell me about them, if you want to. I'd love to listen.
Try to avoid
These are well-meant, but often land harder than we expect.
"Everything happens for a reason."
"They're in a better place."
"At least they lived a long life."
"Let me know if you need anything." — offer something specific instead.